The Perks of Being Engaged
Ok, ok… Sure, of course being engaged is wonderful all on it’s own. Blah, blah soulmates, blah blah, eternal love. Cue some birds chirping and a rainbow off in the distance. We all know that an engagement is significant and meaningful and marks a transition in your life with your partner. While I am not discounting that, I’m also not talking about that. What I’m finding out recently is that it can be FUN! For starters, how many occasions in your life do you get to say that shopping is mandatory?? And during an engagement there isn’t just one totally essential shopping trip; there are a bunch (and a couple that you could probably slide in there without anyone judging you)! Then there’s the gift registry, and the bachelor & bachelorette parties, and some more shopping, and cake tasting. The list goes on!
Most girls love any excuse to shop. Assuming you have a little flexibility budget-wise, you can really take this occasion to the limits. First, there’s the obvious shopping trip to find The Dress. You’ll likely gather a small group to join you as you search for the one and only dress you’ll wear that you KNOW will never be outdone. The entire point of that dress is to blow everyone else out of the water and that in itself is fun! During an engagement, though, you can find quite a few other reasons to buy a new outfit. For example: your bachelorette weekend. For this extra special girls trip, you’ll need a minimum of 2 new dresses and likely at least 1 new bikini if your destination calls for it (and, why wouldn’t it?). Then we have your other, smaller but no less special occasions like your engagement party, bridal shower, and rehearsal dinner. That loosely translates to: new dress, new dress and another, even better new dress. For the final shopping extravaganza, we have: the shoes! A bride MUST have some killer wedding shoes. Sure, maybe you’re getting married on a beach and you’ve opted to go barefoot, but in my opinion, that’s the only acceptable exception (if that). Haven’t we all heard the phrase “Life is short, buy the shoes!”? I support the implementation of that quote into your life and your wedding planning wholeheartedly.
The registry. To be honest, I didn’t enjoy registering for gifts. I do love getting presents, like anyone else, but I don’t like having to ask for them. Anyway, the fiancé and I were urged to register and noticed that there are a few things we could use around the house so we gave it a shot. All I can say is, despite not loving the act of registering (though the little registry gun they give you makes it more entertaining), I do absolutely LOVE drinking the espresso from our new Nespresso machine and toasting to, well, anything, with our new Riedel wine glasses. Presents = love. :-)
Another perk of being engaged is the food! There’s food at every occasion in general – engagement party, rehearsal dinner, wedding, etc –, which is always a good thing if you belong to either of our families. But the coolest part is that it’s your job to make sure the food is delicious and up to your standards for feeding your wedding guests. Therefore, thou shalt taste! Tasting and selecting the menu, then tasting and selecting the cake were such fun tasks (and so so yummy!!).
My obvious choice for a top perk of being engaged is: you guessed it… The Bachelor & Bachelorette Parties! It’s a great excuse to get together with the friends that you consider the closest and celebrate your past and future life. I don’t know about you, but for me, it’s rare to have all of those ladies in the same place at the same time. My fiancé and I have each lived in multiple states over the years so our friends are spread out all across the map. My suggestion is go big! Make a weekend of it. Take a trip or make it a staycation, but take your time and soak it all in. Your friends have been there with and for you, likely for years. If you’re like us and they don’t live as close as they once did, you will want to spend as much time together as possible. Additionally, this can be a great way to bring your bridal party together if they don’t already know each other well. Finally, if you make a weekend of it, you allow for multiple activities. You can still have your big, sloppy, drunk night out but that doesn’t have to be the entire event. You can spend one or more nights partying and still have some time (that you’ll actually remember) to hang out and enjoy together at brunches and dinners. It may be hard to wrangle your entire group of friends together for your trip but it’s worth it. And if you need some help, that’s why my business exists. You pick a destination and I’ll handle the details.